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Amazing community [Sep. 28th, 2007|11:36 pm]
GLBT Aspies and other non-socialites

My name is Laura, I'm 18 and a freshman and college, and I actually found this community through looking for resources for aspie college students, since I've been having trouble with my roommates at the moment.

Anyway, I have asperger's and am bisexual, though I'm a 4 on the Kinsey scale so I tend to like women more than men. I was really happy to find this community and reading some of the posts on here have really answered some of the questions I've been struggling with for a while. I first realized that I liked girls as well as guys during my junior year of high school, and only last year have accepted who I am. However, it's been hard because I feel like I don't want people to think I'm too unusual, since I'm neither neurotypical nor straight. I do think though that perhaps the reason I am both is because having AS means that I don't perceive boundaries as well as NT people do, including gender-type boundaries. In fact, I would actually not be surprised if many or even most of those with AS are not entirely straight as well, since it seems that we don't perceive boundaries as much.

However, because I do have AS, I've not come out to anyone but my mother at the moment. To be perfectly honest, none of the people I've met so far at college know that I have Asperger's, and I don't know whether or not I should tell them. Or would it be better to tell them that I'm bi and not worry about the other? I really don't know. At any rate, it's great to know that I'm not the only one, and that this community is here for us to support each other.
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Eek, an introduction! [Sep. 1st, 2007|01:30 am]
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[mood |okayokay]
[music |crickets outside the window]

Hullo, all. I've been a member of this comm long enough that I should probably introduce myself, hm? :) this is me spacing out and forgetting to earlier. Oops!

anyway, I'm Chanter, 22 closing in on 23, a university student in the american Midwest, bisexual and out if quietly, and very much an oddity in my own right. Though I haven't got Asperger's, I grew up with someone who did, so I wouldn't call myself unfamiliar. that's not to say I don't have issues of my own; three years ago I was diagnosed with dysthymia i.e. mild depression, and I'd been dealing with it untreated for... I know it's cliche to say "as long as I can remember," but in my case it's true. I suspect I have a few obsessive/compulsive traits, though that's never been diagnosed officially, and if anyone were to call me a *huge* science fiction geek, they'd be nothing if not right.

If that's not enough on the oddity front, I'm also totally blind. That's a huge and separate issue in itself, right there.

I'm suddenly curious if I'm the only blind/visually impaired one here. I know from experience that there's a unique set of challenges to being blind and GLBT, and if anyone feels like chatting/picking my brain/whatever else, whether you're blind or otherwise, go ahead.

Right then, in a nutshell, that's me. Hi! :)
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Check out my journal, comment, discuss [Jul. 12th, 2007|10:48 am]
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[Current Location |a local coffeeshop]
[mood |contentcontent]
[music |Patty Griffin]

Hi, I'm an eighteen-year-old gay male with Asperger's syndrome, writing about it on my new LJ, intense11.livejournal.com. Check it out and comment, and hopefully you can share comparable experiences you've had or any advice. Thanks so much!
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A thought experiment... the strategy of let's get tested TOGETHER BEFORE we have sex. [Apr. 28th, 2007|09:02 pm]
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A thought experiment...

A phenomenon going on without being observed by public health officials. The strategy of let's get tested TOGETHER BEFORE we have sex for A VARIETY of sexually transmitted diseases. Here are a few exchanges of ideas about the strategy http://community.livejournal.com/gay_sex_tips/500292.html
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Intro Post. [Feb. 14th, 2007|11:58 am]
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[music |Coming Clean - Green Day]

Hi everyone
I am a nineteen year old bisexual guy from NY
About a 4 on the kinsey scale aka a little more gay than straight and not totally bisexual.
I have Asperger's and Social Anxiety as well as Bipolar and ADHD
I have felt really confused sexually.
A wide variety of reasons.
I have very few friends and I don't know where my life is heading...it's pretty scary.
I just wanted to say hi and say this is a great idea for a community
Post later.
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(no subject) [Nov. 25th, 2006|04:48 pm]
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I vote that this community be brought to LIFE!
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(no subject) [Aug. 28th, 2006|04:04 pm]
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[Current Location |Still in my boxers.]
[mood |anxiousanxious]
[music |Whatever Charles is playing...some metal, I think.]

So, I have this Far Side Desk Calendar that is basically my life. I write down when I have done things, people's birthdays/anniversaries, and appointments. I also count how many days it's been since I last engaged in some unhealthy bad habit. I truly am lost without this thing.

I lost it for about a month before school started and had no sense of time (I can become very dissociative) and really bad panic/anxiety attacks for almost all of that time. I have this highly irrational belief that without the Planner, life just doesn't and cannot happen. I couldn't eat and was having trouble sleeping. I found it in a friend's car and was relieved, since I started back at school today. But my alarm clock malfunctioned and I woke up an hour late - after spending all night obsessing over how school would go and my upcoming gender therapy appointment on Wednesday. My immediate reaction was to not go to classes at all today. If you miss your first class of the school year, you may as well wait for a day when you can go and be on time to all of them - otherwise, the daily schedule would be off balance. Two classes, instead of three, etc.

So, how crazy does that sound?

- Isaac
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A rather interesting question [Aug. 13th, 2006|09:37 pm]
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[music |Foolish Love - Rufus Wainwright]

I have a question about the gay community ...what ever exists and everything.
I have been reading on some boards devoted to asperger's which I have that gays( used to describe all LGBT) are more tolerant of quirks/oddness/ and introversion
I also read that the GLBT are more likely to have some form of mental illness.
What does everyone think???

Crossposted to some other places...
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Intro Post [Aug. 13th, 2006|03:45 pm]
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[mood |calmcalm]
[music |Lover I Don't Have to Love - Bright Eyes]

Hey everybody...I'm James I'm an eighteen year old bisexual guy from the NYC area

I have Asperger's...fairly mild case in some regards yet in others not...

I also have social anxiety disorder and bipolar disorder.

I am almost totally bisexual by most counts but I still I feel a little bit more gay.

Well this is a great idea for a community even if it's not very active or big...

PS I'm on AIM alot so if you add me give me an IM


I'd really like someone to talk too.
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Hi, I just joined... [Aug. 6th, 2006|07:00 pm]
GLBT Aspies and other non-socialites

[mood |hopefulhopeful]

I have a bit of a problem, and I'm hoping maybe that someone here will be able to help me. I also hope this isn't off-topic, but we'll see what happens, I guess...

I think I might have some sort of anxiety disorder.

I guess it started a year ago. I can remember being at work (I worked in customer service at the time), and I was dealing with a rude person on the phone, and I just started to feel very sick. I went into the bathroom and sat there for twenty minutes until it passed...I basically felt very nauseated, and very scared at the same time. I remember thinking that I just COULDN'T throw up. I'm actually kind of afraid to do it..not because of the actual act, but the feeling you get right before it..that scared, panicky feeling. I hate that more than anything in the world. So anyway, that was the first time it happened...

It happened again a month later, at my 23rd birthday party. I was too afraid to eat, because I thought I might throw up. It became so bad that when we sat down to dinner, I just couldn't do it. I rushed to the bathroom, and my heart was beating really fast, and I felt like I was going to pass out. And then it went away, and I was able to have fun (sort of).

It's happened about five times over the past year...I get really worried that if I leave the house, I'll get sick and it'll be really embarrassing. Or, I'll get sick and maybe there won't be anyone willing to help me, and the fear can be overpowering sometimes. For example...last Monday I started a new job, and I had a panic attack on the way down there on the train. It's just horrible!

The thing is, I KNOW these feelings are illogical, and I know that, probably, nothing bad is going to happen to me, but still it affects my life. I don't go out at all anymore, except to go to work, and that's only because I have to. I don't hang out with friends. I don't date. And that's the weird part...I'm a 23 year old gay male, I know it's a generalization, but people expect me to be happy-go-lucky, partying all the time, and having sex with guys and dating them, and being 23. I WANT to do those things, but I worry that guys aren't going to like me, because I'm slightly overweight, and I don't look like the guys in porn do...and it all just swirls around in my head and makes me even more agoraphobic, and then I just don't leave my room. Plus...I guess I just don't really want anyone touching me. I feel like maybe they might hurt me emotionally if they touch me physically. I know that probably doesn't make a lot of sense (and no, I was never sexually abused as a child). I just know this can't be normal.

I'm definitely NOT suicidal or anything like that...I would never hurt myself in any way. I just can't seem to get myself out of this "mental rut" that I'm stuck in. I want things to get better, but I just don't know how to MAKE them get better. And I know I could go to a psychiatrist and they'd give me Paxil and send me on my way...but I barely like to take aspirin, much less something that's gonna mess with my brain chemistry.

I guess what I want to know is....does anyone ever beat social anxiety disorder or panic disorder without drugs? IS there a way to do that? And more importantly...is there anyone who DOES take Paxil (or some other drug like it) and has had any weird side-effects? How has it helped you?

And (yes there's more)....is there anything really wrong with being anxious about meeting guys when you know you don't look like a porn star? Has anyone else gone through this?

Any comments or help at all would be greatly appreciated.
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